Humans Have Needs
Humans have needs. This doesn’t make you needy. It makes you human.
Humans can’t do this life thing alone. This doesn’t make you needy. It makes you human.
My friends, you are allowed to ask for help in the process of being a person.
Even if you don’t want to be a bother.
Even if you don’t want to rely on another.
Even if you don’t feel comfortable asking.
Even if you don’t know how you’ll be received.
Even if asking has been unsuccessful in the past.
Even if you don’t know exactly what you need. But are willing to be curious.
Especially if you want to be more successful in your experience of being.
You may have been raised with the strong message of independence trumping all. You may uphold this ideal independent of messages from another human.
Please don’t misunderstand independence & unnecessary self-reliance.
We are so much better, together. Together is how we fight diet culture. Together is how we change the narrative about idealized bodies. Together is how we fight racism. And fatphobia. And patriarchy. And homophobia. And transphobia. And ableism. Together is how we heal from diets and disorder.
Together is how we change the narrative of having need.
T O G E T H E R.
So I invite you to be a human with needs. Because your need is OUR need.
This is one of my favorite parts of IG; community. Whether you have a real person or people to share your needs with, you can be seen and acknowledged here. I’m unendingly impressed by how you show up for one another.
Let’s start the week together!
In that vein, what do you need right now?
