You're Worthy of Boundaries
They might have told you stories about the right way to be in a body.
They might have told you that you were doing it wrong.
They might have asked you to work against your body.
They might not have seen your struggle. Or known what to do with it.
And they might have seen it. And encouraged you to keep going.
You may have made the hard choice to set limits on contact with these humans. You may have set boundaries to protect yourself. You may see them rarely as a means of self-preservation. You may recognize that their messaging was never about you, but rather, a reflection of their experience. You might not feel convicted of that yet.
And maybe you’ll see them this week.
They might want to talk about food and bodies and diets and socially encouraged disordered eating patterns. They might ask about why you’re eating what you’re eating. They might repeat patterns that you’ve tried to disrupt. They might behave in ways that reaffirm your need for boundaries and separation and space.
You’re worthy of your boundaries. And you can uphold them even when you are temporarily sidestepping them because the holiday season demands it.
Hold fast, dear ones.
