You Are Loved
You are loved.
You are loved.
You are loved.
Platonic love is just as important as romantic love.
Self-love makes all the other kinds of love better.
I love that we are here, together.
You are loved.
#valentines #happyvalentinesday #love #loveyourself #selflove #community #eatingdisorderrecovery #beloved #allbodiesaregoodbodies #selfcare
My Wish For You
My wish for you is that your interaction with food be gentle.
That it leaves room for both nutritious food, and delicious food, not assuming they are mutually exclusive.
My wish for you is that your interaction with food be self-directed.
That is rooted in body trust and preference and curiosity.
My wish for you is that your interaction with food be functional.
That it is used to calm and soothe, as well as to energize and concentrate and perform.
My wish for you is that your interaction with food be a bit rebellious.
That you break an eating disorder rule, or a diet culture rule, or a rule that was passed down from someone else, carried on without examination, and is now being questioned.
My wish for you is that you hold food as only one, of many, parts of self-care and health promotion.
Yes, food is important. And if you have access to it, it is nowhere near as precious as wellness culture attempts to convince us all that it is.
My wish for you is that food be conceptualized with a wide lens.
Your body is not looking at every item you eat, putting it on a good or bad list, or analyzing anything in a binary fashion. Allergies, notwithstanding. I am far more curious about how a human interacts with food over the course of several weeks than I am about how a human interacts with food in a single day.
My wish for you is that you forgive yourself for any perceived missteps in eating.
Your body can manage all of it.
Leave a food wish for you, your younger self, or a being you love.
#food #eat #Wellness #HealthAtEverySize #yourbodyisgood #Nutrition #Nourish #orthorexia #exerciseaddiction #allbodiesareworthybodies #intuitiveeating #nourishnotpunish #EatingDisorderRecovery #mindfulness #diet #osfed #arfid #bingeeating #bulimia #anorexia #WellnessCulture #DietCulture #AntiDiet #antidietdietitian #disableddietititian
Do What You Can
Today, I ask that you arrive.
And if that’s all that you can do, know that that is enough.
And if you need to ask for support, that is allowed. And that is enough.
And if you need to consider setting limits, that is allowed. And if you set limits to preserve your mind, that is enough. And if you have goals, and want to work towards them, that is enough. And if you want to find quiet space, that is enough. And if you don’t do anything, that is enough.
DO WHAT YOU CAN. THAT IS ENOUGH.
It is my pleasure to be on this planet with you.
Happy Wednesday, everyone!
#recovery #chronicillness #eatingdisorderrecovery #mentalhealth #disability #BingeEatingRecovery #BingeEating #osfedrecovery #osfed #orthorexiarecovery #orthorexia #bulimiarecovery #bulimia #anorexiarecovery #anorexia #arfid #arfidrecovery #Antidiet
Please Let Yourself Cry
Watery eyes? Not releasing stress hormone.
Teary eyes? Releasing stress hormone.
What a beautiful system, and another reminder that your body is on your team. That in any moment, more is going right in your body that is ever going to be wrong.
Crying does not make you less anything. And while it may not change your scenario, it will change your physiology.
I think that’s brilliant.
PLEASE LET YOURSELF CRY.
#selflove #selfcare #Cry #Crying #Heal #Healing #Grief #Anger #Feelings #AllBodiesAreWorthyBodies #BodyTrust #BodyWisdom #eatingdisorderrecovery #chronicillness #osfedrecovery #bulimiarecovery #anorexia #anorexiarecovery #arfidrecovery #bingeeatingrecovery #mentalhealth #depression #anxiety #bodyimage #science
Thin Privilege
This post is in reference to multiple conversations that I’ve had over the last few weeks.
One in which the concept of thin privilege was challenged.
Another, in which a human in a larger body shared stories with me that were poignantly convincing of the fact that fat privilege is in fact, not a thing.
Thin privilege: Being able to go to the store and find clothing that fits your body. Not being worried about your body fitting into a seat. On an airplane, at a theater, at a doctor’s office. Being able to eat without concern of judgment from humans around you. Not necessarily loving your body, but not having a running social commentary that your body is a problem, a risk, or some other deleterious thing. Having the ability to go to the doctor and have your concern heard without receiving input about improving your lived experience by losing weight, first. Regularly seeing images of bodies that look somewhat like yours in the media, without mockery or unpleasantry.
Fat privilege: read above. Reverse all outcomes. This is called OPPRESSION.
Add racism that underlies the thin ideal. Add the impact of discrimination and stigma and then research > allostatic load. We’re hurting humans by not examining prejudice and by not owning our sh*t.
All humans are deserving of respect.
All humans are deserving of inclusion.
All humans are deserving of representation.
I will never understand the experience of someone who lives in a larger body.
This is why naming privilege and lack of expertise matters. And this is only the beginning of the work that is required for fat liberation. Fat liberation is good for all bodies. Thin privilege exists because normalized oppression of fat bodies does, too.
I can hold stories with compassion, but only, ONLY because I recognize and NAME that I am not the expert of that lived experience.
If the concept of thin privilege, or privilege in general, makes you uncomfortable, you are being pointed toward your work.
#thinprivilege #haes #healthateverysize #bodystories #bodyrespect #bodypositivity #bodyautonomy #antidiet #fatpositive #fatpositivedietitian #racism #ableism #fearingtheblackbody #fatactivism #fatliberation
You Can Stop
You can just stop.
You can leave a class.
You can stop a video.
You can decide to lay down.
You can put down the weight.
You can cancel a membership.
No pain, no gain, it’s a stupid expression. And certainly, if you are competing, against yourself or others, you might want to push. And if that competition is coming from a healthy place, then, by all means, get it. And if that competition is coming from an unhealthy place or a place that leaves you feeling yucky, you can leave it.
You can just stop. Come back when it feels better. Reevaluate the nature of your relationship with movement. Get curious about how you want to feel.
AND, YOU CAN JUST STOP.
#Movement #Exercise #Fitness #Wellness #personaltrainer #athletes #Coach #Fitspo #HealthAtEverySize #yourbodyisgood #Nutrition #Nourish #orthorexia #exerciseaddiction #EatingDisorderRecovery #mindfulness #WellnessCulture #DietCulture #AntiDiet
You Are So Human
This human thing that we do, is not easy.
It comes with feeling uncomfortable and unnerved and uneasy and scared and angry and happy and sad and frustrated and joyful and all of the human things.
I’ve had a lot of conversations in the last month that have reminded me of how important it is that we remind ourselves and each other that feeling things, uncomfortable things and comfortable things, make us connected and make us human.
Doing a new thing in recovery and feeling anxious AF? Human.
Taking space from a human who isn’t good for your sense of self and feeling crappy about it? Human.
Struggling to follow through on a plan that you made in supporting your self-care because it challenges you? Human.
Feeling unable to break out of the closet of diet culture? Human.
Feeling so frustrated by the fight that you want to quit? Human.
We are a lot of things. But the prerequisite to being any of them is to be human.
How will you show up as a human today?
OR
Tag a human who needs the reminder that it’s alright to be human, too.
#humanity #human #antidiet #intuitiveeating #wellness #eatingdisorderrecovery #need #haes #dietculture #selfcare #wholelifenutrition
Here To Learn
Anti-oppression is not about picking and choosing.
Here to learn.
I want to feel uneasy as a learner. To examine things I have not in the past. To hold my eyes open when I might feel more comfortable with them shut. I want to be corrected and called in and held accountable.
Instagram has introduced me to incredible teachers. That’s so cool.
BIG LOVE TO — @rachel.cargle @yrfatfriend @sonyareneetaylor @pinkmantaray @meg.boggs @sitting_pretty @ijeomaoluo @ihartericka @mattmcgorry @thefatsextherapist
Who are your most important teachers?
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I want to know them. To read their work and hear their words. I want to support their efforts.
#haes #weightstigma #oppression #sexism #patriarchy #disability #racism #fightthepatriarchy #lgbtrights #disabilityrights #fatpositive #fatactivism #activism #blacklivesmatter #eatingdisorderrecovery #blackhistorymonth #healthateverysize
Take Back Your Power
If you have access to food, the odds that food selection is the key to your wellness is very, very low...seriously.
Wellness culture wants you to react instead of respond.
≫Reactions come from a place of fear or anger or anxiety or stress.
≫Responses come after the feeling. They come from experience and patience and knowing ourselves.
Eat food you enjoy.
Response not reaction.
Eat food that makes you feel well. Response not reaction.
Don’t eat food that makes you feel poorly.
Response not reaction.
Food matters. But not as much as wellness culture claims that it does.
TAKE BACK YOUR POWER.
Respond, mind the reactivity.
#eat #metabolism #antidiet #Diet #food #foodmatters #EatingDisorderRecovery #BingeEatingDisorderRecovery #BingeEatingDisorder #OSFEDRecovery #OSFED #Bulimia #BulimiaRecovery#Anorexia #AnorexiaRecovery #ARFIDRecovery #ARFID #intuitiveeating #Orthorexia #orthorexiarecovery #Selfcare #fatpositive #haes #healthateverysize #wellness #antidietdietitian #bodytrust
"But you don't look like you have an eating disorder..."
“But you don’t look like you have an eating disorder....”
I hate that people say things like this. I’m sorry if something like this has been said to you. I can’t tell you the number of times, nor the number of stories, that I have been told with “you don’t look like you have an eating disorder,” as the punchline. What a punch in the gut.
As to suggest that there is one body shape and size that means eating disorder. As to suggest that there is one body shape and size that denotes suffering. As to suggest that societal standards of body ideals are feasible or practical or reasonable. As to suggest that being told that one’s appearance doesn’t line up with someone else’s stereotypical views will leave a human feeling good. (It won’t.) As to suggest that this statement is not steeped in weight bias. As to suggest that this statement is not dripping in fatphobia. As to suggest that this statement is not colored by racism and gender stereotypes. As to suggest that this statement is not deeply tied to diet and wellness culture.
As to suggest that this is a statement that should ever be made.
Eating disorders are largely invisible illnesses. The suggestion that there is one way to suffer is insulting and ridiculous and unequivocally untrue.
I don’t care what your body looks like.
If you are struggling, you deserve help.
I don’t care what your body looks like.
Your body is the least interesting thing about you.
I don’t care what your body looks like.
If you have an eating disorder self, you also have a healthy self.
I don’t care what your body looks like.
Because you have a healthy self, you can find life outside of an eating disorder.
I don’t care what your body looks like. Your story is valid. I SEE YOU. And I’m so glad to be here with you.
#comeasyouare #eatingdisorderawareness #nedaweek #nedawarenessweek #nedawareness #nedawarenessweek2020 #eatingdisorderecovery #edrecovery #bodyimage #anorexia #bulimia #orthorexia #arfid #osfed #bingeeating #pica #nourishnotpunish #dietitiansofinstagram #allbodiesaregoodbodies #haes